Reading: Yesterday we spent our time looking at a wife’s role in a successful, God-centered marriage. Today we get to look at what the husbands are supposed to do to properly love their wives, and by doing so, glorify the Lord. In Ephesians 5:25 we are told to love our wives like the Lord loved the church – willing to give ourselves up for Her. Yes, that means die for Her. Christ is referred to often as the groom, and we the church are his bride. He knew that we were not perfect, but he also knew that through his love and sacrifice, God the Father would use us to build the church. 

As husbands, it is our job to let our wives know that we will always protect them and lead them to do the Fathers will. When we love our wives by God’s design, they will in return be willing to follow our lead. We also learn in this verse that we are to treat our wives with understanding and honor. This is the only way that our marriage can fully glorify the Lord and keep us in right standing with the Father. The Father commanded Jesus to be patient and understanding with us as well as honor us – which he did all the way to the cross.

As we go back and look at our example of a coach and his team, we can see this play out. A good coach knows that the only way to get his players to trust and submit to his ways is by earning their trust. So how do we go about earning this trust? He shows them by showing his team daily with his words and his actions that he has their best interest in mind. A good coach communicates his vision to his players and he is consistent in his actions. He handles his players with respect and with understanding when they make mistakes, and he affirms them when they are doing good. This is the way the Lord guides by the loving example of the life of Jesus and the comforting reassurance of the Holy Spirit.

Husbands, remember to lead by example showing your submission to the Lord so that your family can further the Kingdom of God. Future husbands, remember what Christ did before you start your journey with your future wife. Jesus laid his life down!

Reflection: As a husband, future husband, or leader, how do you think “laying your life down” is lived out practically?

Prayer Prompt: Dear Lord, thank you for modeling unconditional love and support through your life, death, and resurrection. Please let me love in the same way.